What is Dowry????
A transfer of parental property at the marriage of a daughter.This can be in the form of cash,valuable metals or other expensive gifts like a piece of land,car etc.It is the evil system of bridegroom and his family asking the bride and her family for cash,gifts etc so that the groom keeps the bride safe for life.
When did it start?
In world history the practice of dowry has been reported as early as the Babylonia (1800 BC),The greek empire (500 BC) and the Roman empire etc.This practice has a different cultural context in different regions ,in this blog we can try to get a perspective of Dowry System in the context of Pakistan.
Dowry in Pakistan:
Dowry in its different flavours is practiced in quite a lot of countries like India ,Bangladesh,Afghanistan Nepal,Iran,Turkey,Egypt and yes our very own PAKISTAN.Dowry is a dreadful and unethical practice .It is not a practice for which there is religious sanction,but it continues to be practiced in many countries of the world today.If we say that it is common among the illerate or uneducated people,we will be wrong because even the educated people own this system with pride.The dowry system has been practiced in Pakistan from time long established as it is also portrayed as a cultural trend.Now it has become a curse,it postures a trial which seems difficult to meet.The mandate of dowry has become most indispensible and vital condition of the marriage clearance and settlement.Middle class people become the main target of the attack.Although Pakistan has a number of social problems to be solved yet but one of the biggest issue is Dowry System.
Today we fix dowry rates for boys of different categories doctors,teachers,engineers…blah blah.Merit of the girl has nothing to do in the settlement of the marriage proposal at all.
We generally see that ordinary parents find it difficult to select a boy,well settled in life,for their girl who is well skilled and experienced in household activities.Nowadays,marriage is a game of dowry hunters.Marriage which is something sacred should be made as simple as possible.A large number of girl child abortion are recorded ,the dowry system being one of the reasons.Stop this shame.
The system of dowry has given birth to many evils.Many parents invite huge debts in order to give dowries to their daughters.They work hard during the rest of their lives to pay off the debts.Others do not hesitate to earn money by unfair means to meet the demand of dowry.The social devil Dowry has put an end to the happiness of many couples even after marriage.Many young married girls commit suicide when they find their domestic embittered by the daily taunts of their Mother-in-law
The rich as well as the poor both are in misery due to this social curse.Steps may be taken in order to make everyone realize the emptiness of the system and induce them to reject it altogether.Educate your friends and family on this evil system and lets make a change.